OK, guys and gals, today’s post poses a question about etiquette and I’m looking for your opinion. Well, actually a friend of mine is looking for your opinion. My friend came and asked me a question this morning and it was something I had never thought about and really didn’t have the answer. So, we’re coming to the masses or at least the five people who occasionally stop in and read this blog and asking for your opinion.
My friend (who has asked to remain anonymous) has a child who is graduating from high school sometime in the next few days. Recently my friend’s church hosted a reception for the senior class. While the church had 15 seniors this year, only 12 of the seniors participated in the program. As it often goes at these senior receptions, members of the church as well as family members and friends bring gifts to the graduates. My friend felt like since his/her child was a graduate that he/she didn’t need to provide gifts for the other graduates since generally speaking it would be a wash. Let’s face it folks, having a graduating senior can be expensive – there’s all kinds of things from photos to caps and gowns to pay for, not to mention the college tuition fees looming around the corner. So, my friend felt like there was no need to get the other graduates a gift nor was there a need for the other graduates’ parents to give a gift to my friend’s child.
However, my friend’s child received monetary gifts from the parents of four of the other graduates. Now my friend feels like he/she should have been a gift-giver too. So, what is the etiquette for this type of situation? If you are the parent of a graduating senior, do you or did you give gifts to the other graduating kids?
I told my friend to just write some thank you notes and not worry about the situation and I think that’s what is going to be done, but we were still curious to get the opinion of the rest of you out there. What would you do in this situation? What is the proper protocol? Inquiring minds want to know – so leave a comment and tell us what you think!